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Alone Time

Psychology

I love spending time alone. Ironically, the past few years I’ve realized making time for alone time (it rhymes!) has tremendously helped in creating loving, meaningful relationships with others.

A benefit of choosing to be alone that I read about at Forbes and found very interesting comes to mind. Alone time helps us overcome the me-vs-them mentality, which is the norm when you’re surrounded by others. They did this, I did that, they think this, I think otherwise. Alone time makes us more empathetic and dissolves that line between us and others. I do believe everything is interconnected, and that in a strange, magic-like way, we’re all one. However, it’s hard to keep that in mind when you can’t choose the people you surround yourself with and they’re, well, shitty people.

I always love people more and feel more capable of seeing things from their point of view when I allow myself some distance.

Time alone improves your creative thinking processes, making you more productive and the end product inherently better. You’re more concentrated, and even though we have enough inner “noise” as is, outside distractions definitely add to that and not allowing them to interrupt our train of thought does make GSD easier and less of a hassle. We need to be more cautious with what we choose to pay attention to, and alone time helps us see clearly what is essential and what isn’t.

Spending time alone strengthens your sense of self and self-confidence. I really love this quote by Imam Sufyan Al Tha:

إذا عرفت نفسك فلا يضرك ما قيل فيك
“If you know yourself, then you’ll not be harmed by what is said about you.”

How beautiful is that?! Also, if you’re aware of your worth (and vices, bullshit, limiting ways), you’re not about to take shit from others.

Plus, I believe people that have an issue with spending time alone, have underlying psychological issues. What fears are you avoiding (or trying to)? What are you so afraid of?

If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company. – Jean-Paul Sartre

Today, I took it a step further. I went to a lovely place near my house and didn’t even take my phone or laptop or a book with me. Just me, no distractions, no interruptions. I mindfully enjoyed my coffee, the sun rays hitting my face, the cars and people passing by. I had such a productive rest of the day, and it’s about to get better.

Give yourself a chance to get to know yourself better, you might be delighted with what you find out.