Coffee Thoughts Shop 2: Things to Stop Doing

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Going to cute cafés to get work done + My thoughts = Coffee Thoughts Shop.  Join me on this journey to caffeine poisoning and success (hopefully not both).
  •  talking shit about kids’ appearance, even if they are our most hated politician’s children
  • not texting back the people we love
  • being rude to waiters
  •  flirting with waiters– they just want to work and go home and not get one too many friendly remarks by actual strangers
  • being rude to people handing out flyers– to the people who immediately throw the flyer on the ground in front of the person who handed it to them, there’s a special place in hell for you
  •  worrying too much if there’s a heaven or hell
  • not getting the drink we originally want because it has too many calories? Nourish your body by giving it carrots when it feels like something fresh and high-calorie drinks if it feels like something sweet. Life’s too short to not get what you want.
  • staring
  • using images of happy animals in animal products… Cows are raped for milk, animals are killed for food, and I doubt any of them was ever happy/smiley as advertised #TheFuck (Yes, I’m fun at parties, what do you mean?!)
  • actively trying to see what that person on their laptop is doing. I mean, I *can* see your reflection on the screen…
  • sitting down for looong periods of time. (Guilty, but setting an alarm every hour to remind you to move around the office/house/etc. really helps.)
  • equating health to how thin/fat someone is (fact-based research is a friend)

Thank you for reading. Feel free to share your latest coffee shop thoughts. Was your Espresso Freddo as frothy as mine? The cleaning lady just as nice? Any caffeine epiphanies?

Coffee cup

The advice you never asked for (but a lot of other people did)

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I was searching online on how to bring to life this fancy feature I thought of, I didn’t really know how to Google it though. I typed ‘article how to’ and the most searched questions turned up (turn up yoo) so I thought I’d answer. No one asked me, but I won’t let that stop me.

article how to cope with stress
Check if there’s an actual problem that needs fixing behind your stress. If there is, do something to fix it. If you can’t fix it, learn to accept it. It will make your life and the lives of the people around you way more pleasant. If there’s no issue you can “blame” for your stressful self, besides your anxious nature, learn some techniques to better manage stressful situations, whether by the help of a therapist or your handy dandy Internet.

article how to write
Sit down with your weapon of choice (electronic/pen and paper). Write the first thing that comes to mind. Keep doing that.

article how to overcome stress
Remember, all you have is the choices that you make. Make a conscious effort every day to not let trivial things get to you. Let huge events be a lesson to you, however they turn out.

article how to choose the right friends
Your vibe attracts your tribe. They’re probably looking for you too. Be open to new experiences and meeting new people and try hard to get to know them for who they really are. If you’re thinking of a friend and you have a smile on your face/mind, they’re probably a good friend.

article how to excel in English
Talk more. Read more. Watch more movies/documentaries/shows.

article how to save money
With the money you get, buy only what you need to and do your best to pay your debts, if you have any. Consider saving everything else. Don’t get into debt again.

article how to reduce stress
Cuddle with your cat.

article how to keep the environment clean
If I can only say one thing: reduce your animal products intake.

article how to be safe on the road
Don’t text. It can wait. Think of how other people’s lives will be affected by your driving if you don’t do it right. Don’t hate on the other drivers, maybe they have to be somewhere or they’re just starting out. Be kind. They don’t know you, so it’s not personal, so don’t take it as such.

Definitely cuddle with your cat, though.

 

coffee thoughts shop: one

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Going to cute cafés to get work done + My thoughts = Coffee Thoughts Shop. Join me on the road to caffeine poisoning and success (hopefully not both).
  • I wonder if the waiters refer to me as the girl who takes more than an hour to drink ONE espresso
  • Every time I look over at the restroom, someone’s in there
  • A little girl is learning to walk and her mother is in awe
  • Someone tried to put peanut shells in the trash and they fell on the ground and she blamed the bin and left them there #rude
  • Someone approached and asked my opinion on something
  • Turns out he was being compensated 15000$ (for land he was wrongfully taken years ago) instead of 1500$ and I was the one who delivered the news
  • If you yell at kids, you need to chill the fuck out
  • A girl’s been hugging her mother for more than 2 straight minutes now
  • The new chairs here are so art deco though
  • Thought I’d get news today, but I will on the 26th #WishMeLuck
  • Guessed the WiFi password on the first try
  • There are only two bathrooms -one person at a time in each- and people will wait outside their assigned gender bathroom when the other one is free
  • If you remove the women/men stickers, there’s literally no fucking difference #FreeTheBladder
  • Having only two tabs open feels like I’m missing something
  • Unless you’re a baby that has little to no control to what you pay attention to, don’t stare at other people
  • People with gofundme pages are really… courageous, for lack of a better word
  • Someone has on this perfume that reminds me of so many good things ahh
  • Replaced by just-popped-popcorn smell
  • Replaced by freshly brewed (coffee shops’ attempt at) black coffee smell
  • You can say a lot of things about Albania/Albanians, but you can’t deny: 1. fucking breathtaking nature 2. the girls… Oh, the girls!

Thanks for reading (a piece of my mind).

What do you truly want?

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This post originally appeared at Life in 10 Minutes.

I want to be able to travel whenever I want to wherever I want to. Be able to connect with people across the world and I'm working toward that by creating my website and writing what I want to share with the world.

I believe humans are inherently good. I believe so much in all the goodness that exists in the world: people, nature, animals, vibes. It's all good. I want to be true to myself while helping others. Can't wait to reach more people and write more and more and be paid to do what I so much love to do. I want to have my people by my side, my support system is so strong, I can't wait for the future when I'm making my own living and talking about it with them. My parents, S, N, A, A and everyone who truly cares.

I'm not bitter anymore for a long time now and I hope it stays that way forever. I don't have road rage anymore since coming back from Sri Lanka, I pay no attention to cars or people blocking the sideway. I remember "EVERYONE IS DOING THE BEST THEY CAN". I'm still meditating every day, I'm being good with my body. My eating habits have been back to normal for such a long time now and I couldn't be more grateful to have gone through that and out.

I want to write about women's struggles. About the little things that make our days making our weeks making our months and years. I'm being there, wherever it is I am. I'm present. There. Here. One place. I'm true to myself, this way, I'm true to the whole wide world. I feel everyone should be able to do what they want and make a living out of it. Everyone is being kind to themselves and others. Everyone is happier. Mental health awareness is being spread everywhere and everyone is more cautious and lovely and helpful and good. What I desire most is to spread that and everything I've learned and will keep on learning, helping people with my world, making someone's day is just as important as making everyone's day.

I don't talk badly about others and other's opinions don't bother me, I know who I am and why I am. Music is good and photos are good. Love is the best. I try to love as much as I can. I'm silly. I don't take life seriously, but I take my work seriously. Start contemplating when I notice my coffee cup is still very hot on how things change and that's wonderful and how good coffee is, just liquid gold indeed. Keep up with my people all across the world like Madonna just sang.

She also sang, forget about the bad times. The bad times seem far away and whenever you feel bad you remember it's normal and don't worry about it much, you take extra care of yourself. You're positive about things, even if something goes bad, find the good in that and make it better next time. Breathe the air, it's wonderful. Try to catch sunsets as much as you can. You write in the balcony while the sun sets. You meditate while the sun rises. You're there. You're halfway smiling when you're walking down the street because now that you know you can't unlearn it: it's a good life. Joy can be found in the littlest of things if you look there. Your cat loves you even though he's grumpy. Your hair looks good. The sun is being extra strong today, considering it's March; your favorite month.

Take a lesson

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Here’s a lesson I learned, or should I say relearned for the 55th time.Oh I can say what I want, I’m an adult. I had to write. I had to clean the house. I had to unpack. I had to delete so many emails. I had to… you get the idea. Do stuff. The thing about having a lot of stuff to do though, is that it makes you forget. What, you ask (or you don’t-you do you boo). It makes you forget everyday has 24 hours and everyone has 24 hours. You’re just human*, you can’t do it all perfectly and quickly and mindfully. All you can do is start. Even Newton knew that- objects in motion tend to stay in motion and resting objects tend to remain at rest, unless acted upon by an external force. Don’t let the overwhelm get to you, be that force and just start. The rest is (motion) history.

Until the morning

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I love mornings. I love them. I talked about new chances yesterday, I think mornings represent that so well. I actually had the day off today, my boyfriend's call woke me up then he stopped by the house to give me a goodmorning kiss. I could just stop right here really...

But today some other great thing(s) happened, my meditation practice had been kinda off lately, not today though! I meditated for 13 minutes, which is for how long I sit on the good days. I felt great afterward and so happy I didn't postpone it for the afternoon. Then I had lemon water, which is so easy and so good for us first thing in the morning, it wakes up our digestive system and cleans out toxins (and other great things, mostly I got this from Hannah though). I cleaned the house, put some things in their place, found a better place for things already in a place. Managed to shower before my salty brownie baked oatmeal was done, watched Friends and got ready for the sunny day ahead. I went to a loooovely Christmas decorations store, where photos were allowed *always a plus*; also bought great -fortunately cheap too- food. Yes, I mean chickpeas.
My point is, my mornings (usually) pay off. If I invest energy in having a great morning, I usually end up having a great day as well!
Will you try having an awesome morning for me tomorrow?
P.S. The title of this post is a Thievery Corporation's song, which I love!