For a while now, I’ve been blaming insecurities and an unclear sense of self as the root causes for most problematic behaviors. Condescending people are no exception.
condescending: having or showing an attitude of patronizing superiority
Why would someone talk to you like your age is a single-digit number? Granted, some people objectively know more than you in certain areas. However, I’ve noticed those who actually do, are usually humble and simple-minded people, willing to share their knowledge and experience without ever being cocky or patronizing or trying to seem superior.
Condescending people are clueless.
They’re insecure about who they are and what they do and the way they live their life. For some unknown reason, that grants them the right to weigh in on every and anything, since they’re so knowledgeable…not. Boundaries who?
On Friday, I hung out with a condescending person. Arrogant, conceited, overbearing, pompous person. I don’t even think they know how clear their glass walls are, how breakable. You don’t have to get close to see the facade disguising itself as interest, sweetness, intelligence is just that: a facade.
Why not show genuine interest in others’ lives? Focusing on appearing a certain way leaves you no time or energy to actually be present. You can’t ever fully appreciate the person in front of you. If you’re always trying to think of the next witty thing to say to appear as if you’re The Conversation Almighty, you’re losing.
You can only impress those that are easily deceived and want to be impressed, oppressed, repressed.
There’s no real winning in a fictitious game.
If someone pays attention, it’s clear to see you’re trying to bring others down, just so you can lift yourself up. That throne you’re desperately trying to sit on is delicate, unstable and fragile.
Start a game you’d enjoy winning. Free yourself from those chains. Fuck that uncomfortable throne.