It’s so easy to get caught up in our everyday lives and forget about others, our hobbies/interests, and anything unrelated to school, or work, or our daily routine we’ve set for ourselves.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing grows there.
Especially real, healthy, nourishing relationships. When I was younger, I used to think relationships (not limited to romantic ones obvi) just happened. You hung out with a person a few times, had similar ideas, had fun and that was it.
But, relationships are hard work. Everyone’s trying to make sense out of it all, and you can fall out without even realizing. It’s no one’s fault, it’s just life.
Here’s what I (try to) do:
- let them know when I’m thinking of them- a song, a photo, a lot of things remind me of my loved ones and I like letting them know about it
- reach out often- you never know what someone might be going through until you talk to them. I try to reach out and do so often (without risking my own mental wellbeing)
- Have them know I’ll be there for them when they need me, even though I’m not there all the time
- Keep at it- consistency is the key word in all kinds of ventures you’ve taken on, relationships included
Research shows social connection, is a leading factor in the promotion of health, well-being, and longevity. The 30-year study considers a poor social life as dangerous as smoking, obesity, and excessive alcohol consumption.
On this day, I got to spend a few hours with family and almost-family. We shared stories from our past, some dating back decades ago. One of the women who is born in the same date as me is one of the funniest people I know (I know what you’re thinking, it runs in the date apparently), and she cracked me up.
Who knew that besides having a great time, I was also increasing my lifespan expectancy.