I’m a firm believer in stating your intentions early on. Being clear on what you expect from your romantic relationships, friendships, and workplace is key in meeting those expectations and getting what you want, whatever that was/is.
Coming (literally) across Andy Leek’s amazing art when I was in Amsterdam, I quickly became obsessed. I’m a sucker for one-liners that speak the truth.
No one does.
Games involving someone else’s feelings and thoughts are dangerous, especially if it’s mainly in-consensual when the other person doesn’t know a game is being played. They haven’t chosen to take part.
That’s why I hate games, anything that isn’t clearly stated eventually gets on my nerves. If you’re confused, say so. If you’re sure of something, speak your truth.
“Speak the Truth… Even If Your Voice Shakes”
Still, not exactly a wild guess to know some things are off-limits. People don’t have to make obvious statements, just because the other person is oblivious to what is going on. I’ve said this once (and when I say once, I mean 1000 times) and I’ll say it again.
Not their time, or their explanations. Women don’t have to teach you right from wrong, or how to behave. They don’t have to convince you of anything.
I’m all for being vocal about what you want and expect. I’m NOT all for women having to explain basic human decency to every other guy they meet. Don’t waste our time. You’re not our children, we don’t have to raise you. We don’t have to anything you.
In a world of incels and men killing women who tell them no, and sometimes taking tens of other innocent lives in the process as well, be an actual nice guy. A nice person. Don’t harm the women in your life with lousy questions. Don’t stunt their growth because you refuse to grow. Do better.