Brutal honesty. I always advocate for honesty, and how it’s the best policy. That as long as you’re being respectful, you can do no wrong, no matter how hurtful the thing you’re saying is. However, I don’t think we need to be brutal. Brutality isn’t one of the words that should go hand in hand with honesty or police for that matter.
You can get your point across, truthfully, without being trash about it.
You can be a decent person and show respect, even though you may not like the other person.
You can say “yes” or “no” in a non-demeaning way.
You can tell someone how you feel without hurting their feelings.
You can pause before you speak. Even just a second should be enough reflection time and it will make a difference.
Ask yourself, is this adding to the discussion? Can you say it more clearly, interestingly, humanely?
Keep your brutality, it’s neither needed nor wanted.
P.S. And whoever convinced the world that brutal honesty is a cute personality trait… If I’m being brutally honest, there’s a special place in hell for you.