I’m by the beach, enjoying my morning coffee & this lovely breeze & the 90s music that is playing. At the moment, my friends aren’t here so I’m enjoying my time alone. I scrolled on my phone and wrote for a bit on my notebook.

Then was just enjoying the view and the moment, the stripped beach umbrellas, the tiny palm trees, the glowy sand, the parachute up in the sky and the person in it probably having the time of their life.

And the elderly (seemingly) couple next to me. They seemed to be enjoying the moment as well, especially each others company and the conversation.

sonder: the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own

I was reminded of the word as my friend was in the airport people-watching, hard & we were talking about that realization.Strangely (or not?), I can say it’s one of my favorite aspects of being human. Usually, I “get” a lot of sonder when I have errands to run and end up walking for hours, thus seeing a lot of people.Our paths might never cross again, ever. In that moment though, they did, everything that had ever happened to us had lead us to that point. That other person will have a favorite shirt, favorite movie, favorite color that you’ll never know of. They’ll carry on with meeting their friends, crying, going swimming, getting their heart broken, falling in love (unless they’re aromantic*), falling off a chair, falling asleep in their favorite position to sleep in…We’re all in eachothers lives in some way or another, even for a fleeting second, even as a presence or thought.

As of my favorite artists Jenny Holzer beautifully put it

I had a bittersweet realization regarding the elderly couple next to me though.

There is so much you can learn from people who’ve been doing this unbelievable thing called life for way longer than you have. You can ask them so many questions and they probably don’t need to answer with a hypothetical “if that happened to me, I would…” because that has happened to them. They’ve seen war and famine and dictature. They’ve experienced loss. They can advise you on what your 20s are for, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s. Some have been in their field of work for 30 years. Some have been married for 50.

And yet.

Unfortunately, despite their wisdom, they’re the most sexist, racist, everything-phobic, close minded people, filled to the brim with prejudices and bitterness and ager.

Bittersweet af.

*I know you can fall in love with your friends and work and life, but there’s a romantic connotation to it and you know it. Btw romantics are people whose anaconda don’t want none period. Yes who would’ve guessed people have lives outside their relationships wow.

One reply on “Bittersweet Realization on Elderly People”

  1. Hello ,

    I saw your tweet about animals and thought I will check your website. I like it!

    I love pets. I have two beautiful thai cats called Tammy(female) and Yommo(male). Yommo is 1 year older than Tommy. He acts like a bigger brother for her. 🙂
    I have even created an Instagram account for them ( https://www.instagram.com/tayo_home/ ) and probably soon they will have more followers than me (kinda funny).

    I have subscribed to your newsletter. 🙂

    Keep up the good work on your blog.

    Regards
    Wiki

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