An Albanian saying states: “When they come, open the door for them” (Kur të vijnë, hapi derën). That’s a literal take, a variation of Murphy’s Law: Every possible bad thing that can happen will happen.
If your car’s been acting up and you have to get it repaired, your bathroom’s leaking through the ceiling, and you just got news you’re facing a 50% pay cut due to Coronavirus, your friend might tell you, “When they come, open the door for them.”
Albania is notorious for its hospitality, after all. Besides Murphy’s Law, this proverb applies to the other side of the spectrum: manifestation & abundance.
For someone who lives and breathes positivity, I don’t know why I haven’t talked about this earlier.
One of the many good things about writing and publishing something new every Sunday for everyone to see is that I have the privilege of being a person with nuanced thoughts online. Since I own the narrative here and I’m the editor, my story includes all parts of me, making it harder to put me in a box.
So I’m not scared to write about woo-woo subjects that make me look like I believe the Earth is flat. My readers know I’m down to earth. I hope you’ll give me the benefit of the doubt to talk about space from time to time.
Manifestation is the process of bringing your thoughts to fruition and of making your wishes true just by believing in them.
Manifesting: Cultivating the experience you want to feel — and then living and believing in that experience so you can allow it to come into form.Gabby Bernstein, Manifesting 101
Have you ever thought of a friend then ran into them the next day?
Have you ever thought about something then saw it in a show or read about it?
When you manifest, you’re in close collaboration with the Universe.
Because the Law of Attraction, which roughly states that you can attract what you want, has gathered quite a bit of negative press, a lot of people don’t want to be associated with such “silly, childish things.”
But what’s so strange about the fact that we are the co-creators of our lives?
What is so childish about asking for what you want, out of yourself and out of the Universe, and then receiving it?
You can call it luck, God, silly, or hard work, but all of us can witness this source if we pay attention.
The more you look for signs that the Universe has your back, the more signs you find.
I’ve grown accustomed to thinking of myself as a lucky person. I’ve found myself in many dangerous situations, and then out of them, with what can only be described as luck or involvement of a higher source.
Likewise, luck has been on my side as I’ve gone on to manifest my dream career, health, self, and relationship.
Do you believe in miracles?
When I was younger, something bad happened. Looking back, it wasn’t that tragic. However, as it was happening, teenage Delfina was freaking out. Crying, hyperventilating, trying to find a solution.
After an hour or two, I was almost ready to give up.
At the time, I had a complicated relationship with faith and God. For some reason, defeated, I said, maybe even out loud:
“If you help me with this God, I will believe in you forever.”
I don’t want to get into details because the thing I’d lost and was worried about seems trivial now. It might take away from the way I remember feeling and the terror that had swallowed me whole.
But, a few moments after making that promise, I saw the thing I’d been searching for. What I had been looking for for hours showed up there right in front of me, clear as day.
Now, I don’t want to imply I’ve defied the laws of physics or of our physical realm.
Something that wasn’t there didn’t show up simply because I asked for it.
You’ve read this story and you may have formed your own opinions of what happened.
Maybe I was so panicked I couldn’t see straight, maybe I missed what was right in front of me. Maybe I subconsciously wanted to believe in a higher power and found this “excuse” to make it official, or maybe you don’t buy it at all.
We can all believe what we want- it’s never my intention to tell you what to think.
But this was my experience. As the years have passed, I’m happy that I haven’t repressed this memory in fear of looking dumb. I haven’t questioned my experience.
I’ve been a believer ever since, in what I call My God. You might call them Allah, Jesus, the Universe, the unspoken belief that something greater than us has our back.
Dreaming of chocolate
If you’re Albanian, you must remember Caotonic chocolates. They looked like this and were super popular back in the day.
You could win gifts- art supplies, bicycles, glasses, etc. Each chocolate had a tiny note inside saying whether you won or not.
When I was a kid, I dreamt of finding the winning note in Caotonic. I woke up, went outside to play with my friends, and inevitably decided to buy one. I won!
This year and November especially have been the absolute best out-of-this-world adventure for me.
So many things have aligned. I’ve never felt so in the zone in my professional or personal life.
Earlier this week, I was working out and listening to one of my favorite YouTubers, Lauren Toyota, manifestation playlist. I felt so inspired and “asked” for a new freelance writing client. I received three inquiries within the week.
“When they come, open the door for them.”
I’ve welcomed so many good things in my life. I feel so indebted to this power that I want to stop everyone in the street and tell them they can do this too. So, I’m telling everyone who’s walking by my little corner of the internet.
Would you be willing to consider this possibility, that The Universe is on your side and patiently waiting for directions to get you where you want?
I’m so excited to keep co-creating with The Universe.